Articulation as First Expression (Part 2) – Your Name
“But avoid foolish controversies and genealogies and arguments and quarrels about the law, because these are unprofitable and useless. Warn a divisive person once, and then warn him a second time. After that, have nothing to do with him. You may be sure that such a man is warped and sinful; he is self-condemned” Titus 3: 9-11
Have you ever been lied about? Have you ever heard a rumour of yourself? Have you ever seen your good intentions changed, altered and shifted so far beyond its thesis? Have you ever spent a year in isolation? Away from friends, family, support structures or any sort of social interaction? Have you ever been so unable to challenge that which has been said about you? Have you ever had the truths and the secrets you hold deeply, exposed so innocuously, as though they were universal knowledge? Have you ever been so powerless to the opinions of total strangers? Have you ever been so downtrodden that those you once called allies, turn on their heels and choose to believe rather than a question?
Have you ever had to strive for the perfection of self, simply to rewrite a falsified story? Have you ever been a scapegoat, persecuted and denigrated by all, just so that a lie can survive? Have you ever been deeply disliked by your peers simply for trying to be your absolute best self? Have you ever been made the cause for all others failings in life? How does a name survive? How does a reputation remain truthful? How do the complexities of personality, begin to infiltrate the understandings of personhood? How do we remain ourselves, while fundamentally changing as the minute’s march on? How do we remain the same we’ve always been while rejecting everything that has led us to the chaos in our lives?
From previous postings, I have highlighted why central life philosophy, is that of Truthful Articulation. I made the point that truthfully articulating ourselves. We can thus reduce those potential areas of conflict or pain which are inconsistent with how we interact with the rest of society. How we engage in the pursuit of our goals. How we go about doing just that, and our impact on others. Essentially how we conduct our lives.
These workable ideologies sit within how well, or rather how consistently we can truthfully articulate ourselves. They begin to be composite of our viewpoints and our non-negotiable states of Order. Drawing from the definitions of Dr Jordan Peterson; this form of expressionism allows one to navigate the world. To reduce the lack of understandings or complexities among beings.
Hence, when we make a statement which we hold, to be true. Or make a disdainful difference to that which we hold as untrue. We do so particularly when we feel as though others are taking undue advantage of us. It is this expressionism which is our first foray into a perusal of our philosophy. It is the most original manner in which we bring life to the very definitions by which we conduct our lives. It is how we set our stake in the sand. Our Truthful Articulation is the only tool in setting Order to Chaos.
I felt incredibly comfortable at the time when publishing Part 1. How naïve of me. A year has since passed, and the desire to articulate truthfully has become a cross upon which I place myself. Since last year January, I made it my sole aim to be sure that I keep my principles easy enough for me to understand first. And to only speak up, if these non-negotiable traits have been unduly trodden on. It has been a glorious catch 22. To attempt to reduce misgivings through truthful speech. To stand by your spoken word, to be a promisor of your Stipulatio. with the knowledge that should you be errand in your truth. The consequence is the same as the violation of this ancient principle. One would be at pains to be found untruthful. The atonement is nothing less than a public stoning, by the ones left pooer by your lack of reverence for truth. The admonishment of those who lie with proficiency has been greatly diminished of late.
I thought about how impractical it is to be consistent in one’s articulation, no matter our best intentions. Sometimes it is also serving to omit truths if they are not readily sought or beneficial to our cause. Even in cases where it is morally repugnant to not tell the truth, and one is to lay all bare. Even if this is an explicit duty. We still may choose a lesser truth or even a cold concreted calloused lie. As self-serving creatures, we will always tend to the side of preservation of our current Order. This has left me feeling as though many others might feel too that Truthful Articulation, at all times, not the best strategy for life. While inherently good, and based on spiritual principles. Life is not entirely played on the strictness of the rulebook.
So after some searching, it hit me. It is not the art of being an “Honest Abe” and dependably telling the world as it is. It is also not about having the inability to lie by some spiritual affliction like in “Liar Liar”. Nor, is it about wielding such manipulative deceptive powers, like Ricky Gervais has in “The Invention of Lying”. Our lives are governed purely by the principle that we stand on truth-based purely on how we represent ourselves at our initial point of asking. People are always judging each other. Always tending to their side of caution. A caution which in itself leads to its own fed and nurtured paranoia. All stemming from the lack of their truthful articulation, at initial contact.
Our complexities are reduced on the validity of what we first say to the strangers we meet. Our defence against the undue infractions is sent out with immediacy once we truthfully articulate our name. It is that simple. Our first test in the interactions we have with strangers, or even those we are newly engaged with. Our birth rite identifier is what we should strive to express truthfully. Whether carried through our lives since birth. Or if altered, amended or completely changed in later life. If it is how we truly identify ourselves, in all areas, then it should stand as the very first tool in our armoury in the defence of our Order.
When we make the pronouncement of the name we call ourselves, and which all others call us too. If it is the name used on legal tender. If it is the name which you answer to when called. If it is the name you wish to protect from damage or ill-spoken words. Then it is the very essence by which you begin to claim that which is yours. Through the truthful articulation of your name, you set yourself aside from the rest of humanity. You create for yourself, at least for that moment, a niche area in the world of many others.
While many others may have the same name as yours, and you don’t feel it be particularly special. Its specialness is that its representation is unique to you. The manner, in which you carry it, is based in all that you as an individual do daily. I mean, not all Neil’s walked on the moon. Nor did all the Neil Armstrong’s. Instead, this special, unique duty was carried out by one specific Neil. While it was a victory for ALL Neil’s at the time, the experience is only that if one.
As such your name becomes your first point of contact with Chaos. It is how you announce your entrance and associated participation into the “game” currently in progress that you wish to enter and play. It is this simple means of communication which we dispense with, through very little consideration which has a significant bearing on our commencing interactions. If we start our interactions with a lie, how are we then to understand where we are to engage the truth. How are we to know when someone is taking undue advantage of us if we can not at first instance invoke our initial point of truthfulness?
In legal matters, people always talk about “clearing my name”. It is known Chaos when we are faced with the demand to defend our name, or the incorrect representation thereof. It is a minor situation if someone is to at first mispronounce or misspell our name. The reduction of Chaos is evident when we correct this with immediacy. However, if we allow these failings of our articulation to fester. It turns into acquiescence that that is what we wish to be referred or identified as.
We can create further complexity just by being polite. We incorrectly allow the moment of correction to pass by since we are unsure how the correction will be perceived. So to not rock the boat, we allow it. Yet, months later, when the same incorrect articulation of our name is made by others, we choose to blow up and rant about how our name is not respected and we are not being taken seriously etc. All the lovely victim emotions warm our souls and we feel empowered by making this correction now. The irony being, that the conflict and negative perceptions we looked to avoid. Are now more rampant than ever. So instead of being known as someone proud of their name and origins. We now look passive-aggressive and undefined. Character traits not always associated with those many want to be around.
By neglecting our duty to truthfully articulate ourselves, even when being mindful of future “games”, we lose the opportunity to remain socially authentic. A social authenticity which falters and shifts just the same as a rumour, a bad reputation or reverence of self. It is a central praxis I believe, not only as a part of your truthful articulation strategy but as a successful key into the entrance into games which are fulfilling, their rewards truthful and their representations of good future value. If we lose the ability to remain truthful when saying our names, we begin to lose the unique identifications which separate us from beasts into conscious creatures. It allows us to transcend matter, into something that matters.